THIS IS AN EMERGENCY
THIS IS AN EMERGENCY
THIS IS AN EMERGENCY
THIS IS AN EMERGENCY... what happened to that black girl magic?
Hello Pumpkin Spices,
For a while now, I have been contemplating writing a blog about disrespect toward women, I am up bright and early to speak about the foolishness that happened yesterday. Everyone knows that I love my melaninated brothers and sisters and that it is my job to protect them, so here it goes. Does anyone notice the amount of hatred and degradation being poured into the world of Pop Culture? What about the alleged relationship between Rob Kardashian and Angela "Blac Chyna" White? or Wendy Williams reaction to it. If you don't recall, or you purposely took yourself out of the equation, seeing that it does nothing for the growth of your pocketbook, then good. I commend you but I will also give you a recap.
Yesterday social media users were caught in another drama scene between celebrities, this time it was between Blac Chyna and the Kardashians, Rob Kardashian, to be exact. There is a rumor that they are dating, and of course, social media trolls unleashed a furry of hate and pure comedy onto the world. Post ranged from congratulating to down right evilness. IF you know me and have gotten a taste of whats in this Apple Tree, than you know, that I am the Queen of supporting women all across the globe. That being said you also know that I am a huge BlacChyna supporter and I support all petty antics. I believe women should be treated with respect regardless of their race, sex, class, occupation, religion, etc. However the same people who claim they share my beliefs, are usually the oppressors. Do not stand in front of a podium and proclaim that black girls are beautiful, strong, ambitious, are formidable etc., and with the same tongue call them whores, gold diggers, thots, bad mothers, ugly, weak etc.
Before anyone thinks this post is about my opinion on their relationship, let me stop you,
THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM AS A COUPLE.
I am here to address Wendy Williams degradation of Chyna on her show. Why Wendy? Well because Wendy Williams is known for her gossip show, and her ability to be shady toward other woman. CAUTION... Do not get me wrong. I love Wendy Williams. Her story from being the underdog to the women on top is inspiring. I know Wendy to say what she wants about anyone, and at anytime. I just don't like to hear other women negatively speaking about other women. Most importantly Wendy is a woman with a lot of supporters, and a lot of listening ears; Therefore should be protecting the images of women not destroying them. I am also not here to say Wendy should like all women but I am here to say she should not degrade or perpetuate the idea of belittling women. Wendy proceeded to address the situation between the Kardashians and BlacChyna by calling her a thot. How dare she as a women ever say that about another women. When influencers speak things into existence, it gives other people the will to say things as well. My disappointment is not with the fact that she shares an opinion about BlacChyna that differs from mine, the problem with her statement is the amount of reinforcement of disrespect she is preaching. Not just this particular woman but many women engage in this sort of behavior, especially entrainment news specialist.
THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM AS A COUPLE.
I am here to address Wendy Williams degradation of Chyna on her show. Why Wendy? Well because Wendy Williams is known for her gossip show, and her ability to be shady toward other woman. CAUTION... Do not get me wrong. I love Wendy Williams. Her story from being the underdog to the women on top is inspiring. I know Wendy to say what she wants about anyone, and at anytime. I just don't like to hear other women negatively speaking about other women. Most importantly Wendy is a woman with a lot of supporters, and a lot of listening ears; Therefore should be protecting the images of women not destroying them. I am also not here to say Wendy should like all women but I am here to say she should not degrade or perpetuate the idea of belittling women. Wendy proceeded to address the situation between the Kardashians and BlacChyna by calling her a thot. How dare she as a women ever say that about another women. When influencers speak things into existence, it gives other people the will to say things as well. My disappointment is not with the fact that she shares an opinion about BlacChyna that differs from mine, the problem with her statement is the amount of reinforcement of disrespect she is preaching. Not just this particular woman but many women engage in this sort of behavior, especially entrainment news specialist.
These "Role Models" make my tired ass, tired. I am tired of the disrespect, the degradation, the self hate, the shaming and all forms of negativity. I am tired of every form of shaming, make up shaming, slut shaming, fat shaming, skinny shamming, body shaming, life shamming etc. Could it be that women are more intimidated by one another, that a simply compliment just will not do? We need more positivity within our community. What about Black Girls Rock, Black Girl Magic, Brown Baddies, Melanin on Fleek, S.O.S Supporting Our Sistas, P.B.W Power of Black Women and etc.
I cannot solve the problem alone, but I am here to ask that we reevaluate what we say and how we treat our women. If you wouldn't want a man calling you that then you shouldn't have to hear a women call you it either. Its okay and perfectly normal to have disdain for someones actions, but calling them out their names or using words that belittle and degrade them is not only wrong but its unfair to Women in general/ ladies the next time you decide to speak negatively of the next women, just ask yourself, is that the sort of energy I want to put into the world?
By all means don't stop being petty if that's is what you love, but I too, know the most supportive petty people in the world. Petty doesn't always bring others down.
It is Wednesday, so therefore for the first time I am making a Woman's Crush Everyday list: These are the woman I look up to and that I believe are positive role models for me. You too should make one and share it as well, hashtag #SupportingOthersBlackGirlMagic.
My Women Crush Everday Crew is:
1. Angela Bassett
2. Cicely Tyson
3. Kerry Washington
4. Angela White aka Blac Chyna
5. Teyonah Parris
6. De' Angela Giles
7. Michelle Obama
8. Monique
9. Jennifer Lewis
10. Asia Alvarez
11. Uzo Aduba
12. Tina Fey
13. Wendy Williams
14. Jennifer Hudson
15. Charlize Theron
16. Toni Morrison
15. Lynn Nottage
16. Karen Civil
17. Lauren Fluker
18. Regina Hall
19. Regina King
20. Oprah
21. Nia Long
22. Teyana Taylor
23. Viola Davis
24. Octavia Spencer
25. Taraji P. Henson
26. bell hooks
27. Ava DuVernay
28. Shonda Rhimes <3
29. Gabourey Sidibe
30. Brittney Jackson
31. Erykah Badu
32. Lauryn Hill
33. Jill Scott
34. Zoe Kravitz
35. Janelle Monae
36. Angela Simmons
37. Sharee Davis
38. Jessica Carpenter
39. The house of June
40. Tika Sumpter
41. Tracee Ellis Ross
42. Amber Riley
43. Loren Lott
44. Heather Lindsey
45. Alfre Woodard
46. Kimberly Elise
47. YaYa Shahidi
48. Loretta Devine
49. Zoe Saldana
50. Tessa Thompson
51. Brittany McCullers
52. Lauren Martinez
53. Serena Williams
54. Denessia Law
55. K'la Everett
56. Lauryn Hill
57. Lynn Whitfield
58. Ayana Iman
59.Amandla Stenberg
60. Amber Withey
61. Antonia Martin
62. Reeyana Sehgeh (Myself)
63. Rihanna
and so many more. These woman exemplify the kind of positive vibes that I like to see, and hear. Women with voices and talent. You will see a lot of celebrities and a few of my friends. Get on board and make a list of the women that inspire you.
Random: What about Stacey Dash?
Me: I Said Black
Random: Tina Fey is on this list.
Me: Well, a few of us decided to have a meeting about it and the conclusions was that Tina, is a fair and better trade.
All that negativity has to go... burn it!
I cannot solve the problem alone, but I am here to ask that we reevaluate what we say and how we treat our women. If you wouldn't want a man calling you that then you shouldn't have to hear a women call you it either. Its okay and perfectly normal to have disdain for someones actions, but calling them out their names or using words that belittle and degrade them is not only wrong but its unfair to Women in general/ ladies the next time you decide to speak negatively of the next women, just ask yourself, is that the sort of energy I want to put into the world?
By all means don't stop being petty if that's is what you love, but I too, know the most supportive petty people in the world. Petty doesn't always bring others down.
It is Wednesday, so therefore for the first time I am making a Woman's Crush Everyday list: These are the woman I look up to and that I believe are positive role models for me. You too should make one and share it as well, hashtag #SupportingOthersBlackGirlMagic.
My Women Crush Everday Crew is:
1. Angela Bassett
2. Cicely Tyson
3. Kerry Washington
4. Angela White aka Blac Chyna
5. Teyonah Parris
6. De' Angela Giles
7. Michelle Obama
8. Monique
9. Jennifer Lewis
10. Asia Alvarez
11. Uzo Aduba
12. Tina Fey
13. Wendy Williams
14. Jennifer Hudson
15. Charlize Theron
16. Toni Morrison
15. Lynn Nottage
16. Karen Civil
17. Lauren Fluker
18. Regina Hall
19. Regina King
20. Oprah
21. Nia Long
22. Teyana Taylor
23. Viola Davis
24. Octavia Spencer
25. Taraji P. Henson
26. bell hooks
27. Ava DuVernay
28. Shonda Rhimes <3
29. Gabourey Sidibe
30. Brittney Jackson
31. Erykah Badu
32. Lauryn Hill
33. Jill Scott
34. Zoe Kravitz
35. Janelle Monae
36. Angela Simmons
37. Sharee Davis
38. Jessica Carpenter
39. The house of June
40. Tika Sumpter
41. Tracee Ellis Ross
42. Amber Riley
43. Loren Lott
44. Heather Lindsey
45. Alfre Woodard
46. Kimberly Elise
47. YaYa Shahidi
48. Loretta Devine
49. Zoe Saldana
50. Tessa Thompson
51. Brittany McCullers
52. Lauren Martinez
53. Serena Williams
54. Denessia Law
55. K'la Everett
56. Lauryn Hill
57. Lynn Whitfield
58. Ayana Iman
59.Amandla Stenberg
60. Amber Withey
61. Antonia Martin
62. Reeyana Sehgeh (Myself)
63. Rihanna
and so many more. These woman exemplify the kind of positive vibes that I like to see, and hear. Women with voices and talent. You will see a lot of celebrities and a few of my friends. Get on board and make a list of the women that inspire you.
Random: What about Stacey Dash?
Me: I Said Black
Random: Tina Fey is on this list.
Me: Well, a few of us decided to have a meeting about it and the conclusions was that Tina, is a fair and better trade.
All that negativity has to go... burn it!
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